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Hey, I'm Amanda
I offer families trauma-trained nervous system support to
create more positive behavior outcomes
It's time to remember what parenting is all about...
✹ Parenting is a relationship, not a job. Lead with reciprocity, not hierarchy.
✹ Your children come through you—they aren’t yours to own. Your role is to see them and guide them toward the fullest version of themselves.
✹ The world is hard. Our task isn’t to armor against it, but to soften into it.
✹ Safety and connection with our children grow through body awareness, mindful thoughts, and flexible nervous systems.
✹ We are here to feel—but not let our thoughts about our feelings dictate our choices. You are a cycle breaker.
✹ Each generation carries the chance to heal what came before. That healing begins with you.
Claire, London
“I felt more in control as I have something I can turn to when I feel overwhelmed or stressed. This has had a positive affect on my responses with my children, my husband and my work role. Ive felt I've been able to connect more and I’ve felt warmer, more loving feelings more of the time.”
My Story
Meet Amanda Ashy
Creating calmer, more connected families.
I’m Amanda — a cycle breaker, trauma-trained Family Coach, and clinical nutritionist. I’m also training as a Myofascial Energetic Release bodywork practitioner. My work is rooted in one core belief: it’s time to parent differently — with compassion, curiosity, and connection at the heart. You have these skills already inside of you, and here, I help you wake them up.
I grew up in a Catholic, Lebanese family in a small town in the Deep South of the US. In my early 20s, I moved to Los Angeles and worked in TV production before moving again to London, where I eventually left media behind to follow my true calling: helping families heal, grow, and thrive.
Over the past decade, I’ve supported thousands of children, parents, and educators across the globe — from homes to classrooms — using trauma-informed nervous system practices that transform behavior from the inside out. Instead of punishment and consequences, I guide parents toward mindful discipline, co-regulation, and relational trust.
I work with families navigating a wide range of challenges, including:
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Trauma, anxiety, and stress
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Autism, ADHD, and PDA
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Emotional regulation and confidence
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Divorce and co-parenting
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Academic pressure and resilience-building
My work has included close collaboration with SENCO departments across London schools, where I’ve supported vulnerable children, parents, and teachers. I’ve delivered the Mindfulness in Schools Project (MiSP) KS2 curriculum, and created a bespoke yoga and mindfulness program for KS1, taught for over five years.
HOW TO WORK WITH ME
My private 1:1 coaching is flexible: tailored for both parents together, one parent individually, or parents and children combined.
And for mothers specifically, I lead the membership Motherhood Rising Collective — a sacred space for mothers who want to release stress, reconnect with their intuition, and feel supported in the messy, beautiful reality of modern motherhood
I am also a certified Safe and Sound Protocol provider, a powerful intervention that helps regulate the nervous system and build social engagement.
Get in touch for 1 to 1 work:
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Children age 9 & up: packages of 8 or 12, one hour sessions
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Parent support: get aligned with your partner and receive support to help you with challenging behavior and reactions behavior
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Private coaching for women and mothers: 'The Authentic YOU' let go of the shame and fear and become the women you know you already are
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The Safe and Sound Protocol: auditory hypersensitivity, chronic dysregulation, anxiety, PTSD, Autism, ADHD, SPD, trauma
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Join my membership sanctuary, Motherhood Rising Collective
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Myofascial Energetic Release bodywork, East Sussex UK
To explore coaching for yourself or your child, or to book me as a speaker for your event or company, simply fill out the form on the right or email me at amanda@amandaashy.com.
I’ll respond promptly.
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Let’s burn through the old stories that you’ve carried since childhood.
The ones that said:
- being good meant following the rules
- keeping the peace mattered more than telling the truth
- your needs could wait
So when perimenopause hits, and your body prepares you to move from the role of sacred Mother to the revered role of the wise Sage, (the woman who gives very few f***s) you’re not blindsided by everything that comes with that:
➡︎ Grief for how much you’ve held
➡︎ Resentment for how little was given back ➡︎ The sudden realization that you’ve been putting yourself last for years
➡︎ Rage for all of times you've swallowed your truth
This a return to the truth that's already inside you, waiting to become.
A version of you that feels confident, trusting, and deeply connected in your body and your relationships.
And from that place, motherhood feels lighter.
Let’s do this!
Come find me @mothers_nervous_system_coach
With you,
Amanda
The ones that said:
- being good meant following the rules
- keeping the peace mattered more than telling the truth
- your needs could wait
So when perimenopause hits, and your body prepares you to move from the role of sacred Mother to the revered role of the wise Sage, (the woman who gives very few f***s) you’re not blindsided by everything that comes with that:
➡︎ Grief for how much you’ve held
➡︎ Resentment for how little was given back ➡︎ The sudden realization that you’ve been putting yourself last for years
➡︎ Rage for all of times you've swallowed your truth
This a return to the truth that's already inside you, waiting to become.
A version of you that feels confident, trusting, and deeply connected in your body and your relationships.
And from that place, motherhood feels lighter.
Let’s do this!
Come find me @mothers_nervous_system_coach
With you,
Amanda
The mental load won’t shift until moms can let dads take real ownership, not just help, without losing their sense of worth.
Yes, it’s true that generally mothers are the family leaders.
Mothers carry the massive mental load, more so than dads.
But is that because mothers don’t give dad’s the chance to do more, and have ownership of parenting?
I work with tons of dads, and dads get it.
When they hear the logic behind mindful parenting and conscious discipline, they are willing to action
change immediately.
After a few weeks of working with dads, their perspective shifts and they begin to see their child’s behavior as a stress or survival response, rather than ‘bad’ behavior - this brings pause and curiosity, so they can meet their child’s needs more fully.
They also start to support you, the mother, in a more helpful way, rather than just being there to be the fear of god to get compliance.
This partnership starts to feel more whole and complete.
Here’s to all the dads out there doing the work.
You’re seen. And you’re so important!
Resources linked in Bio including joining my amazing newsletter 🌟👐🏽
With you,
Amanda
Yes, it’s true that generally mothers are the family leaders.
Mothers carry the massive mental load, more so than dads.
But is that because mothers don’t give dad’s the chance to do more, and have ownership of parenting?
I work with tons of dads, and dads get it.
When they hear the logic behind mindful parenting and conscious discipline, they are willing to action
change immediately.
After a few weeks of working with dads, their perspective shifts and they begin to see their child’s behavior as a stress or survival response, rather than ‘bad’ behavior - this brings pause and curiosity, so they can meet their child’s needs more fully.
They also start to support you, the mother, in a more helpful way, rather than just being there to be the fear of god to get compliance.
This partnership starts to feel more whole and complete.
Here’s to all the dads out there doing the work.
You’re seen. And you’re so important!
Resources linked in Bio including joining my amazing newsletter 🌟👐🏽
With you,
Amanda
Remember when you tried to share your feelings with a friend, about how your kid is struggling with school anxiety, and they kept trying to give you advice?
Did you really want their advice?
Or did you just want them to say, ‘Gosh, that sounds really tough. It must be so hard for you all.’
And then, you can exhale because you felt seen.
Here’s an example of meeting your kid’s feelings, rather than reasoning with them, so they can feel seen, regulate and hear what you're saying:
- Validate: speak to the emotion, not the behavior. “I know you’re frustrated b/c screen time is over.”
- Show understanding: “And I know that’s hard for you. I find it hard to put my phone down sometimes too.”
- Hold boundary: “Today, we’ve reached our screen limit.”
- Offer choice: “Do you want to turn your screen off, or do you need me to help you to turn it off?”
- Relationship: “I know we can get through this. And tomorrow, we pick up with screen time again.”
Remember, there’s always space zoom out and see the big picture, collaborate in the moment, change your no to a yes, change your yes to a no.
The most important thing is you know WHY you’re holding your boundary. If you don’t know why, your kid will not trust you.
This is the support you have inside the membership for mothers 🌟 Motherhood Rising Collective online membership for mothers 🌟
We work with our reactive patterns, stuck beliefs and learn how to trust ourselves as mothers.
Reply RISING and I'll DM you info ✨✨
With you,
Amanda
Did you really want their advice?
Or did you just want them to say, ‘Gosh, that sounds really tough. It must be so hard for you all.’
And then, you can exhale because you felt seen.
Here’s an example of meeting your kid’s feelings, rather than reasoning with them, so they can feel seen, regulate and hear what you're saying:
- Validate: speak to the emotion, not the behavior. “I know you’re frustrated b/c screen time is over.”
- Show understanding: “And I know that’s hard for you. I find it hard to put my phone down sometimes too.”
- Hold boundary: “Today, we’ve reached our screen limit.”
- Offer choice: “Do you want to turn your screen off, or do you need me to help you to turn it off?”
- Relationship: “I know we can get through this. And tomorrow, we pick up with screen time again.”
Remember, there’s always space zoom out and see the big picture, collaborate in the moment, change your no to a yes, change your yes to a no.
The most important thing is you know WHY you’re holding your boundary. If you don’t know why, your kid will not trust you.
This is the support you have inside the membership for mothers 🌟 Motherhood Rising Collective online membership for mothers 🌟
We work with our reactive patterns, stuck beliefs and learn how to trust ourselves as mothers.
Reply RISING and I'll DM you info ✨✨
With you,
Amanda
You can stop a defiance with a sharp, harsh word, or a defeated submission, and it works.
The behavior stops, temporarily.
But your child doesn’t just hear the “STOP.”
They feel it.
YouTube Dr Dan Siegel’s “Feel Good with Just One Word” to understand how harshness feels for your child.
They feel your tension, and they fear it.
They feel your wavering, and they expect it.
And somewhere beneath it, trust starts to crack.
Parenting isn’t about stopping behavior through control.
It’s about your “bounday” landing within relational connection, so your child feels safe enough to comply.
What does that mean?
We connect first: validation and understanding of the emotion, before embodying our boundary and/or correcting behavior.
✨ That’s what we build inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers. You move from tension and conflict to trust and safety.
Comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you,
Amanda
The behavior stops, temporarily.
But your child doesn’t just hear the “STOP.”
They feel it.
YouTube Dr Dan Siegel’s “Feel Good with Just One Word” to understand how harshness feels for your child.
They feel your tension, and they fear it.
They feel your wavering, and they expect it.
And somewhere beneath it, trust starts to crack.
Parenting isn’t about stopping behavior through control.
It’s about your “bounday” landing within relational connection, so your child feels safe enough to comply.
What does that mean?
We connect first: validation and understanding of the emotion, before embodying our boundary and/or correcting behavior.
✨ That’s what we build inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers. You move from tension and conflict to trust and safety.
Comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you,
Amanda
You know what you need to do: hold the firm, kind boundary.
But the discomfort of someone being upset with you, even your child, is too much.
I know because I was a people pleaser too, and didn't trust my boundaries 👐🏽
So your nervous system flips the moment your child’s emotions get too big.
One minute you’re calm. The next, you’re bargaining with your child just to keep the peace.
That’s not you as a functional adult. It’s the patterns of you, as a wounded child, who never felt safe to speak or be heard.
When you start tending to that part, something changes.
You stop reacting from old survival patterns. You become the adult you needed— emotionally safe, connected, able to hold the moment without collapsing or exploding.
And your child feels that.
They begin to trust you because they see your grounded, kind strength and they respond positively to that.
Home begins to feel lighter, more connected.
✨ That’s the work we do inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
Your capacity expands.
Parenting becomes presence.
Where we rise together.
Comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you in the messy middle,
Amanda
But the discomfort of someone being upset with you, even your child, is too much.
I know because I was a people pleaser too, and didn't trust my boundaries 👐🏽
So your nervous system flips the moment your child’s emotions get too big.
One minute you’re calm. The next, you’re bargaining with your child just to keep the peace.
That’s not you as a functional adult. It’s the patterns of you, as a wounded child, who never felt safe to speak or be heard.
When you start tending to that part, something changes.
You stop reacting from old survival patterns. You become the adult you needed— emotionally safe, connected, able to hold the moment without collapsing or exploding.
And your child feels that.
They begin to trust you because they see your grounded, kind strength and they respond positively to that.
Home begins to feel lighter, more connected.
✨ That’s the work we do inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
Your capacity expands.
Parenting becomes presence.
Where we rise together.
Comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you in the messy middle,
Amanda
Slamming the door harder than you meant, or giving the silent treatment when you’re upset—it’s not about your child’s disrespect.
It’s about the parts of you that never felt heard, not having an opinion, of being told to speak up and then told to not talk back.
The childhood wound that still runs your reactions.
When that wounded part is in charge, your child’s behavior feels impossible to manage—and under pressure, your voice becomes the voice of your parents, not your own.
The truth? You can’t change their behavior first. You start with yourself: noticing your triggers, reclaiming your voice, and trusting yourself to respond as the adult you’ve been waiting to be.
The more you trust yourself, the more capable you feel, and the more your child follows your lead.
It starts with you.
✨ If you’re ready to do this work inside a space that sees you, supports you, and teaches you how to trust your own voice — Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers is open.
Comment Rising to join this space and take the real action your kids need.
With you, Amanda
It’s about the parts of you that never felt heard, not having an opinion, of being told to speak up and then told to not talk back.
The childhood wound that still runs your reactions.
When that wounded part is in charge, your child’s behavior feels impossible to manage—and under pressure, your voice becomes the voice of your parents, not your own.
The truth? You can’t change their behavior first. You start with yourself: noticing your triggers, reclaiming your voice, and trusting yourself to respond as the adult you’ve been waiting to be.
The more you trust yourself, the more capable you feel, and the more your child follows your lead.
It starts with you.
✨ If you’re ready to do this work inside a space that sees you, supports you, and teaches you how to trust your own voice — Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers is open.
Comment Rising to join this space and take the real action your kids need.
With you, Amanda
When your voice was dismissed, corrected, or minimized as a child, you didn’t stop needing to be heard — you just stopped trusting that it mattered.
Now, when your child pushes back, that emotional trigger from childhood is activated, and the voice in your head belongs to the adults from your past, who shut you down.
So you repeat that patter to your child because you’ve not healed that wound.
This isn’t about being a “bad mom.” It’s about how hard it is to know your voice, when you were never allowed to express it.
Here’s the shift: Every time you choose grounded words instead of silence or snap, you’re not just parenting differently. You’re rewriting the nervous system story — for you, and for your kids.
That’s the work.
Not perfection.
Not calm.
Not never raising your voice.
But repairing in real time so your child learns: “I am safe to speak. I am safe to be me.”
✨ If you’re ready to do this work inside an online membership space that sees you, supports you, and teaches you how to trust your own voice — comment RISING and I'll message you info *video from our Monday morning class, Serenity Session 🌟
This is where it begins.
With you,
Amanda
Now, when your child pushes back, that emotional trigger from childhood is activated, and the voice in your head belongs to the adults from your past, who shut you down.
So you repeat that patter to your child because you’ve not healed that wound.
This isn’t about being a “bad mom.” It’s about how hard it is to know your voice, when you were never allowed to express it.
Here’s the shift: Every time you choose grounded words instead of silence or snap, you’re not just parenting differently. You’re rewriting the nervous system story — for you, and for your kids.
That’s the work.
Not perfection.
Not calm.
Not never raising your voice.
But repairing in real time so your child learns: “I am safe to speak. I am safe to be me.”
✨ If you’re ready to do this work inside an online membership space that sees you, supports you, and teaches you how to trust your own voice — comment RISING and I'll message you info *video from our Monday morning class, Serenity Session 🌟
This is where it begins.
With you,
Amanda
It’s not that defiance doesn’t happen. It does.
It’s that I no longer let it pull me into the same cycle of snapping, threatening, or shutting down.
This didn’t come from more patience or pretending I was calm.
It came from learning how to work with what was happening inside me, and notice when I was at capacity and ask for help.
Asking for help doesn’t mean I can’t handle the load. I can. Really well.
Asking for help is using my voice and showing myself I’m worthy of a break, so I can show up for my kids and hold their emotion and guide their behavior.
When we have true nervous system capacity, rather than relying on calm, we can hold anything they throw our way.
That’s the work inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
Where we practice untangling the old scripts, expanding capacity, and finding the steadiness our kids can lean on.
Because control might win compliance in the moment but only trust creates respect.
✨ Comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you,
Amanda
It’s that I no longer let it pull me into the same cycle of snapping, threatening, or shutting down.
This didn’t come from more patience or pretending I was calm.
It came from learning how to work with what was happening inside me, and notice when I was at capacity and ask for help.
Asking for help doesn’t mean I can’t handle the load. I can. Really well.
Asking for help is using my voice and showing myself I’m worthy of a break, so I can show up for my kids and hold their emotion and guide their behavior.
When we have true nervous system capacity, rather than relying on calm, we can hold anything they throw our way.
That’s the work inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
Where we practice untangling the old scripts, expanding capacity, and finding the steadiness our kids can lean on.
Because control might win compliance in the moment but only trust creates respect.
✨ Comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you,
Amanda
You’ve got that familiar knot in your chest as you scroll the news and feel everything that’s happening in the world.
Your body feels weak thinking about the world your kids are growing up in, even as you find the missing sock, or pass them money as they walk out the door.
It's hard.
And you are capable!
We have to process our own shit, so we can show up as the fierce and compassionate mother that’s needed to protect those you love.
No more white-knuckling through motherhood.
Now is the time to be rooted, held, supported.
So you can notice that knot and know exactly how to release it.
So you can feel steadier, and your kids feel safer, even when the world feels overwhelming.
That is the sanctuary of Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
Where your capacity grows.
Where your family steadies.
Where we rise together.
✨ Comment RISING and I’ll send you details for the membership
With you,
Amanda
Your body feels weak thinking about the world your kids are growing up in, even as you find the missing sock, or pass them money as they walk out the door.
It's hard.
And you are capable!
We have to process our own shit, so we can show up as the fierce and compassionate mother that’s needed to protect those you love.
No more white-knuckling through motherhood.
Now is the time to be rooted, held, supported.
So you can notice that knot and know exactly how to release it.
So you can feel steadier, and your kids feel safer, even when the world feels overwhelming.
That is the sanctuary of Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
Where your capacity grows.
Where your family steadies.
Where we rise together.
✨ Comment RISING and I’ll send you details for the membership
With you,
Amanda
You’re very capable. You move through the school runs, the meals, the meltdowns, the slammed doors with what feels like resilience.
And yet beneath it all, there’s a sensation that you can never fully exhale.
Sigh after sigh after sigh is your pattern, which your family picks up on but never mentions to you.
The undercurrent of strain is part of the atmosphere in your home.
You can keep carrying it alone, you’ve done it this far and asking for help is cringe, but what if you were supported?!
Inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers, we shift these endless sighs into full exhales because together we make the demand of motherhood feel lighter.
Inside this membership the heaviness gets named, understood, and released so your body can reset.
You are held instead of holding it all.
Steadiness is practiced with other mothers who are breaking the same cycles.
You root down and finally the tightness on your chest feels looser, and your family feels this.
✨ If your body knows it’s time, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you,
Amanda
And yet beneath it all, there’s a sensation that you can never fully exhale.
Sigh after sigh after sigh is your pattern, which your family picks up on but never mentions to you.
The undercurrent of strain is part of the atmosphere in your home.
You can keep carrying it alone, you’ve done it this far and asking for help is cringe, but what if you were supported?!
Inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers, we shift these endless sighs into full exhales because together we make the demand of motherhood feel lighter.
Inside this membership the heaviness gets named, understood, and released so your body can reset.
You are held instead of holding it all.
Steadiness is practiced with other mothers who are breaking the same cycles.
You root down and finally the tightness on your chest feels looser, and your family feels this.
✨ If your body knows it’s time, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you,
Amanda
Last night, bedtime for my 11 year old took over an hour.
She’s a highly sensitive child and came home completely overwhelmed by her first week at a huge new school, with over a thousand kids.
Her resistance, rigidity, high needs, and delirium carried on from the time she got home, until she finally fell asleep at 10:30pm.
During bedtime, which took an hour, I stepped away to reset three times.
When I returned I was able to pick up where we left off: validating, gentle touch, body rocking, cheek rubs, holding her tears, her shouting…until she finally felt safe enough to surrender in my arms.
Because I paused repeatedly, paced off my rising overwhelmed, and stayed focused on her need, instead of thinking about the true crime I was meant to be watching with my partner, I was able to stay compassionate.
It was a long afternoon and evening, but it ended in connection and peace.
Because I tended to myself, I could truly hold space for her.
Learning how to regulate rather than white knuckle your way through your kid's big emotions is what I support parents with.
Resources 🔗in bio
With you in the messy middle,
Amanda
She’s a highly sensitive child and came home completely overwhelmed by her first week at a huge new school, with over a thousand kids.
Her resistance, rigidity, high needs, and delirium carried on from the time she got home, until she finally fell asleep at 10:30pm.
During bedtime, which took an hour, I stepped away to reset three times.
When I returned I was able to pick up where we left off: validating, gentle touch, body rocking, cheek rubs, holding her tears, her shouting…until she finally felt safe enough to surrender in my arms.
Because I paused repeatedly, paced off my rising overwhelmed, and stayed focused on her need, instead of thinking about the true crime I was meant to be watching with my partner, I was able to stay compassionate.
It was a long afternoon and evening, but it ended in connection and peace.
Because I tended to myself, I could truly hold space for her.
Learning how to regulate rather than white knuckle your way through your kid's big emotions is what I support parents with.
Resources 🔗in bio
With you in the messy middle,
Amanda
The shift happens when you realize discipline means to lead, not to punish, and leadership begins trust and emotional safety.
When you notice your own tension, pause, and respond in a way that keeps the relationship intact, behavior changes and connection deepens.
These are the conversations we have inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
And we practice shifting our own beliefs, patterns and emotional triggers so we can be confident, stable and assured in our leadership as a disciplinarian, guide and mother.
Comment RISING if you’re curious and I’ll message you more info ✨
With you,
Amanda
When you notice your own tension, pause, and respond in a way that keeps the relationship intact, behavior changes and connection deepens.
These are the conversations we have inside Motherhood Rising Collective, online membership for mothers.
And we practice shifting our own beliefs, patterns and emotional triggers so we can be confident, stable and assured in our leadership as a disciplinarian, guide and mother.
Comment RISING if you’re curious and I’ll message you more info ✨
With you,
Amanda
And when you have a space to practice, to notice your partterns, to be held, shifts start happening.
Not because you’re more calm, but because you’re supported.
That’s what we do inside the membership for mums, Motherhood Rising Collective.
If you’re curious about this kind of support, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you in the messy middle,
Amanda
Not because you’re more calm, but because you’re supported.
That’s what we do inside the membership for mums, Motherhood Rising Collective.
If you’re curious about this kind of support, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you in the messy middle,
Amanda
The mornings feel hard before they’ve even begun. The kids won’t get out of bed, it’s raining, and the disagreements with your partner surface.
And you wonder: Why does my home feel so chaotic when I’m so capable in every other part of my life?
Sometimes you nail it and feel so relieved.
But more often, the tension takes over before you notice — and everything spirals.
You want mornings that feel easier, evenings that end with connection instead of tension, and the confidence to move things along in a kind, collaborative, and firm way.
This isn’t out of reach.
Your nervous system is just carrying patterns that began in your childhood.
Patterns that can be healed.
Inside 🌟 Motherhood Rising Collective 🌟 we return to this remembrance together.
We slow down enough to notice the cycles, to steady our bodies, and to practice the kind of flexibility that creates safety and trust in your home.
Here, you are seen.
You are held.
You are reminded that repair is always more powerful than perfection.
And as you trust yourself more deeply, your children will feel that trust. Your family will soften into it. Ease will begin to flow.
✨ If you feel the pull to do this work in community, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you in the messy middle, Amanda
And you wonder: Why does my home feel so chaotic when I’m so capable in every other part of my life?
Sometimes you nail it and feel so relieved.
But more often, the tension takes over before you notice — and everything spirals.
You want mornings that feel easier, evenings that end with connection instead of tension, and the confidence to move things along in a kind, collaborative, and firm way.
This isn’t out of reach.
Your nervous system is just carrying patterns that began in your childhood.
Patterns that can be healed.
Inside 🌟 Motherhood Rising Collective 🌟 we return to this remembrance together.
We slow down enough to notice the cycles, to steady our bodies, and to practice the kind of flexibility that creates safety and trust in your home.
Here, you are seen.
You are held.
You are reminded that repair is always more powerful than perfection.
And as you trust yourself more deeply, your children will feel that trust. Your family will soften into it. Ease will begin to flow.
✨ If you feel the pull to do this work in community, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With you in the messy middle, Amanda
The other night, my teen and I miscommunicated. I tried to suggest a compromise, but she refused, holding a hard no upon each suggestion.
I could have said ‘can’t you see I’m trying’ or laid down a bit of shaming, ‘what is wrong with you, why are you being so difficult’
But instead, I realized we wouldn’t resolve it in that moment, so I stepped away.
A few moments later, I returned and sat in her room while she listened to music, and straightened her hair, giving her space.
She was still closed off, and I simply stayed with the moment, paying attention to what I could feel and see.
Then it clicked.
She wasn’t angry.
She was disappointed.
I recognized this in her posture, her expressions, her energy.
Then I spoke:
“I feel like I disappointed you.” “Maybe you did,” she said quietly. “I’m sorry—that wasn’t my intention.”
The repair ❤️
Her posture softened.
Her face changed.
We shared a real, meaningful hug.
And when I left, I saw the smile in her eyes again.
Conflict with your child isn’t just upsetting, it’s soul-wrenching. And they feel that too.
You might think they were being disrespectful, manipulative, unreasonable but to them, they were just spilling out with their emotions that they didn't quite know how to manage.
Repair. That small act of showing up, after hard moments, teaches more than perfect calm ever could.
Resources linked in Bio
One to one spaces available.
With you,
Amanda
I could have said ‘can’t you see I’m trying’ or laid down a bit of shaming, ‘what is wrong with you, why are you being so difficult’
But instead, I realized we wouldn’t resolve it in that moment, so I stepped away.
A few moments later, I returned and sat in her room while she listened to music, and straightened her hair, giving her space.
She was still closed off, and I simply stayed with the moment, paying attention to what I could feel and see.
Then it clicked.
She wasn’t angry.
She was disappointed.
I recognized this in her posture, her expressions, her energy.
Then I spoke:
“I feel like I disappointed you.” “Maybe you did,” she said quietly. “I’m sorry—that wasn’t my intention.”
The repair ❤️
Her posture softened.
Her face changed.
We shared a real, meaningful hug.
And when I left, I saw the smile in her eyes again.
Conflict with your child isn’t just upsetting, it’s soul-wrenching. And they feel that too.
You might think they were being disrespectful, manipulative, unreasonable but to them, they were just spilling out with their emotions that they didn't quite know how to manage.
Repair. That small act of showing up, after hard moments, teaches more than perfect calm ever could.
Resources linked in Bio
One to one spaces available.
With you,
Amanda
Calm is fragile. It’s uncertain. It can’t be maintained, so let’s not rely on being calm and patient when we gentle parent our kids.
They need to know they can trust you, and feel safe when they feel their big emotions, when they've lost control and can’t find their way back.
When you loose it after five minutes, they can't trust that.
Sometimes they might push too far because that’s what immature emotional brains do, and you might wobble.
You might have a micro-reaction and say ‘just stop!’ or ‘if you don’t' or 'please help me out.'
GREAT!
That’s human.
And then you pause and reel it in.
Regain your stability rather than throw down the consequence because you're out of ideas.
Finding that flexibility in your nervous system once you’ve been pushed over your edge is called capacity.
Even though you’re not quite sure how you’re going to handle this moment with your defiant child, you trust the answers are inside of you and when you stay connected to yourself, like magic, the answer you’re looking for will drop in.
That’s what a regulated system gives you.
Clarity.
And clarity requires capacity. Not calm.
🌟 That is what we practice inside the membership sanctuary for mothers Motherhood Rising Collective.
You tend to your inner landscape, release old patterns of control and develop more capacity, so you can guide your wild, chaotic and sometimes ferrel kids from a place of steadiness, trust and safety because that is what changes behavior and brings harmony to your family home.
Comment Rising and I’ll message you the details.
With you,
Amanda 💫
They need to know they can trust you, and feel safe when they feel their big emotions, when they've lost control and can’t find their way back.
When you loose it after five minutes, they can't trust that.
Sometimes they might push too far because that’s what immature emotional brains do, and you might wobble.
You might have a micro-reaction and say ‘just stop!’ or ‘if you don’t' or 'please help me out.'
GREAT!
That’s human.
And then you pause and reel it in.
Regain your stability rather than throw down the consequence because you're out of ideas.
Finding that flexibility in your nervous system once you’ve been pushed over your edge is called capacity.
Even though you’re not quite sure how you’re going to handle this moment with your defiant child, you trust the answers are inside of you and when you stay connected to yourself, like magic, the answer you’re looking for will drop in.
That’s what a regulated system gives you.
Clarity.
And clarity requires capacity. Not calm.
🌟 That is what we practice inside the membership sanctuary for mothers Motherhood Rising Collective.
You tend to your inner landscape, release old patterns of control and develop more capacity, so you can guide your wild, chaotic and sometimes ferrel kids from a place of steadiness, trust and safety because that is what changes behavior and brings harmony to your family home.
Comment Rising and I’ll message you the details.
With you,
Amanda 💫
Calm is not what you feel when your kid is screaming their head off or your teen is slamming doors behind them
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When you aim for calm in the middle of chaos, you end up suppressing.
And suppression ends in little explosions like shouting, threatening or slamming your own doors 😉
Your child doesn’t needs your calm. They need your nervous system steadiness and flexibility.
Your ability to micro wobble, and then regulate and recover so you can solve the problem in front of you.
For example:
A young child might need their emotion validated, their feelings understood and the gift of time to process their disappointment. This takes presence, empathy and embodying your boundary.
For a teen, it might mean taking a breath, keeping your voice calm and open, and responding with understanding instead of criticism or blame. This takes curiosity, gentle gestures of connection and a willingness to co-create in the moment.
That’s the work inside my membership for moms: Motherhood Rising Collective.
Work with our emotional patterns so we can build nervous system capacity and offer connection to your child, even in high conflict moments.
✨ Comment RISING if you’re ready to stop chasing calm and start practicing flexibility.
With love,
Amanda
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When you aim for calm in the middle of chaos, you end up suppressing.
And suppression ends in little explosions like shouting, threatening or slamming your own doors 😉
Your child doesn’t needs your calm. They need your nervous system steadiness and flexibility.
Your ability to micro wobble, and then regulate and recover so you can solve the problem in front of you.
For example:
A young child might need their emotion validated, their feelings understood and the gift of time to process their disappointment. This takes presence, empathy and embodying your boundary.
For a teen, it might mean taking a breath, keeping your voice calm and open, and responding with understanding instead of criticism or blame. This takes curiosity, gentle gestures of connection and a willingness to co-create in the moment.
That’s the work inside my membership for moms: Motherhood Rising Collective.
Work with our emotional patterns so we can build nervous system capacity and offer connection to your child, even in high conflict moments.
✨ Comment RISING if you’re ready to stop chasing calm and start practicing flexibility.
With love,
Amanda
You know taking time for yourself will give you the capacity to be the mom you want to be.
Creating space for yourself isn’t hard.
We’ve just been taught the opposite - to fill every moment, distract, and “keep going.”
But even five quiet minutes, if you allow them, can reset your body, restore your focus, and give you the capacity to parent with gentleness and certainty.
I’ve supported hundreds of mothers to do this for themselves, so it is possible 👐🏽🌟
Inside Motherhood Rising Collective, we slow down, notice what’s really happening in the moment, and build practical ways to respond instead of react.
You learn how to reset yourself in real moments of chaos, so you can be the grounded adult, while your child flies off the handle.
This is where you start to parent with your body, the way your mind already knows it can!
✨ Comment RISING if you’re ready to slow down, steady your nervous system, and meet your children (and yourself) with more calm and presence.
With love,
Amanda
Creating space for yourself isn’t hard.
We’ve just been taught the opposite - to fill every moment, distract, and “keep going.”
But even five quiet minutes, if you allow them, can reset your body, restore your focus, and give you the capacity to parent with gentleness and certainty.
I’ve supported hundreds of mothers to do this for themselves, so it is possible 👐🏽🌟
Inside Motherhood Rising Collective, we slow down, notice what’s really happening in the moment, and build practical ways to respond instead of react.
You learn how to reset yourself in real moments of chaos, so you can be the grounded adult, while your child flies off the handle.
This is where you start to parent with your body, the way your mind already knows it can!
✨ Comment RISING if you’re ready to slow down, steady your nervous system, and meet your children (and yourself) with more calm and presence.
With love,
Amanda
You thought calm was the way. But it’s not.
Your kids sense the tight jaw, braced shoulders and blaming tone, and that is a warning to them...
So they stay in their own survival mode because they need to defend.
I know because I’ve gone through it.
On the outside you look patient. On the inside, you’re screaming and confused as hell.
The good news?
You don’t have to keep repeating this pattern.
You can parent with certainty and lightness and get compliance without yelling, shaming or threatening.
I know because I’ve done it for over 10 years.
That’s the work we do inside Motherhood Rising Collective. We work to understand our nervous system patterns of behavior and slowly unwind them, so we can be the grounded, firm, kind, compassionate parent our kids need and build relationship, not authority.
When you learn how to parent differently, you feel lighter while you parent.
✨ If you’re ready to stop repeating the cycle, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With love,
Amanda
So they stay in their own survival mode because they need to defend.
I know because I’ve gone through it.
On the outside you look patient. On the inside, you’re screaming and confused as hell.
The good news?
You don’t have to keep repeating this pattern.
You can parent with certainty and lightness and get compliance without yelling, shaming or threatening.
I know because I’ve done it for over 10 years.
That’s the work we do inside Motherhood Rising Collective. We work to understand our nervous system patterns of behavior and slowly unwind them, so we can be the grounded, firm, kind, compassionate parent our kids need and build relationship, not authority.
When you learn how to parent differently, you feel lighter while you parent.
✨ If you’re ready to stop repeating the cycle, comment RISING and I’ll send you the details.
With love,
Amanda
And of course....
You’re carrying more than just the tantrum or meltdown in front of you.
You’re holding the weight of your own childhood, the pressure to do it better, and the invisible load of keeping everyone regulated, fed, clean, and on schedule.
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That’s not proof you’re shit at parenting.
It’s just that your body is at capacity, maxed out - DONE!
The shift isn’t about aiming for endless patience, giving in to every request, or trying to make your kid’s feelings go away…
It’s learning how to work with the capacity you already have, so gentleness doesn’t makes you feel like every bedtime is a losing battle that ends with threats.
If you’re ready for grounded, practical support that makes calm feel sustainable, and the load feel lighter, my 1:1 spaces are now open.
Message me “CALM” and I’ll send you the details.
With love,
Amanda
You’re carrying more than just the tantrum or meltdown in front of you.
You’re holding the weight of your own childhood, the pressure to do it better, and the invisible load of keeping everyone regulated, fed, clean, and on schedule.
.
That’s not proof you’re shit at parenting.
It’s just that your body is at capacity, maxed out - DONE!
The shift isn’t about aiming for endless patience, giving in to every request, or trying to make your kid’s feelings go away…
It’s learning how to work with the capacity you already have, so gentleness doesn’t makes you feel like every bedtime is a losing battle that ends with threats.
If you’re ready for grounded, practical support that makes calm feel sustainable, and the load feel lighter, my 1:1 spaces are now open.
Message me “CALM” and I’ll send you the details.
With love,
Amanda
These moments:
- When you’ve calmly asked your child to brush their teeth five times, and then your throat closes, chest tightens and you pull them into the bathroom.
- When homework turns into a standoff, and no amount of sighing makes you feel better, so you take their phone for the rest of the night
- When the screen time rule isn’t followed and suddenly you’re saying, “If you don’t…!”
Why do these moments happen?
Not because you’re not good enough, but because stress, frustration and lack of control pushes your capacity.
And when you’ve hit capacity, you revert to the patterns you learned as a kid, even when you never wanted to parent that way.
But each pause, each moment of silence to find clarity teaches your child more than compliance. You’re teaching them how to navigate emotions in conflict.
Here’s an example:
I was in a standoff with my teen. She was refusing to do the thing I needed her to do. We’ve been here many times with the resistance. She’s escalating, so I pause to consider the situation.
When I speak again, it’s still refuted.
I pause again and stop talking, for longer.
In that time, she offers information about her needs - this is valuable because that’s what helps me connect with her and offer compassion in how I solve this ‘problem.’
At this point, I’m not interested in her doing the entire ‘thing’ I need her to do, I’m interested in her showing up as a member of our family and taking responsibility.
Based on her needs and mine, we collaborate and we create a situation that works for both of us. No arguing. No shouting. No threats. It got done.
She showed she’s capable and considerate of others; I tag teamed her and picked up where she left off, so she could go back to her room and be in her world (it was her birthday 😊)
It takes time to understand behavior, and build your capacity to navigate it, without using threats or punishments.
That’s what I teach inside my 1:1 work.
I’ve got a few spaces open.
Message me if you want the kind of support that changes what parenting feels like.
It can actually feel a lot lighter🥰
With love,
Amanda
- When you’ve calmly asked your child to brush their teeth five times, and then your throat closes, chest tightens and you pull them into the bathroom.
- When homework turns into a standoff, and no amount of sighing makes you feel better, so you take their phone for the rest of the night
- When the screen time rule isn’t followed and suddenly you’re saying, “If you don’t…!”
Why do these moments happen?
Not because you’re not good enough, but because stress, frustration and lack of control pushes your capacity.
And when you’ve hit capacity, you revert to the patterns you learned as a kid, even when you never wanted to parent that way.
But each pause, each moment of silence to find clarity teaches your child more than compliance. You’re teaching them how to navigate emotions in conflict.
Here’s an example:
I was in a standoff with my teen. She was refusing to do the thing I needed her to do. We’ve been here many times with the resistance. She’s escalating, so I pause to consider the situation.
When I speak again, it’s still refuted.
I pause again and stop talking, for longer.
In that time, she offers information about her needs - this is valuable because that’s what helps me connect with her and offer compassion in how I solve this ‘problem.’
At this point, I’m not interested in her doing the entire ‘thing’ I need her to do, I’m interested in her showing up as a member of our family and taking responsibility.
Based on her needs and mine, we collaborate and we create a situation that works for both of us. No arguing. No shouting. No threats. It got done.
She showed she’s capable and considerate of others; I tag teamed her and picked up where she left off, so she could go back to her room and be in her world (it was her birthday 😊)
It takes time to understand behavior, and build your capacity to navigate it, without using threats or punishments.
That’s what I teach inside my 1:1 work.
I’ve got a few spaces open.
Message me if you want the kind of support that changes what parenting feels like.
It can actually feel a lot lighter🥰
With love,
Amanda
In the last few weeks, I’ve noticed how the smallest thought of school admin can make me brace with stress.
It’s not because the tasks are big.
It’s because each one lands on top of everything else I’m carrying, and my system needs a moment to settle.
When I catch myself powering through, I end up more stressed and reactive by the end of the day, even though it's ticked off my list.
But when I pause, take a breath, drop my shoulders, give my body a chance to catch up—everything feels different.
The load is still there, but I’m not bracing against it in the same way.
If you want to feel steadier, lighter, and more present in these everyday moments, The Sanity Saving Guide walks you through practical ways to pause, reset, and build that capacity so the load doesn’t run you.
Comment PEACE for your low cost video-led guide straight to your DM.
Feel lighter carrying the load!
With love,
Amanda
It’s not because the tasks are big.
It’s because each one lands on top of everything else I’m carrying, and my system needs a moment to settle.
When I catch myself powering through, I end up more stressed and reactive by the end of the day, even though it's ticked off my list.
But when I pause, take a breath, drop my shoulders, give my body a chance to catch up—everything feels different.
The load is still there, but I’m not bracing against it in the same way.
If you want to feel steadier, lighter, and more present in these everyday moments, The Sanity Saving Guide walks you through practical ways to pause, reset, and build that capacity so the load doesn’t run you.
Comment PEACE for your low cost video-led guide straight to your DM.
Feel lighter carrying the load!
With love,
Amanda
When you're ready to say goodbye to👇🏽👇🏽
* Trying to “stay calm” but snapping anyway
* Apologizing on repeat and still feeling guilty for hours
* Reading parenting books and podcasts but feeling like nothing sticks when your child explodes
But you can’t seem to get past that split-second your body flips into survival mode, and you say and do things you regret…
Then you’re ready for 1:1 Parenting Support that focuses on your regulation, not just your child’s behavior.
Because here’s the truth:
*It's not just your child's behavior that's the problem
* You can’t mindset your way out of your own reactivity and dysregulation
* You can’t copy a script and expect it to work when you haven't embodied it
* You can’t shame yourself into becoming calmer
Most advice gets to the root cause: your nervous system capacity.
When we build capacity so you can trust yourself, discipline in a way that feels right and have less parenting conflict.
👉 If you want to handle anger, anxiety, and pushback with more regulation and capacity (and less guilt after), my 1:1 spaces are open.
DM me to claim yours.
With love,
Amanda
* Trying to “stay calm” but snapping anyway
* Apologizing on repeat and still feeling guilty for hours
* Reading parenting books and podcasts but feeling like nothing sticks when your child explodes
But you can’t seem to get past that split-second your body flips into survival mode, and you say and do things you regret…
Then you’re ready for 1:1 Parenting Support that focuses on your regulation, not just your child’s behavior.
Because here’s the truth:
*It's not just your child's behavior that's the problem
* You can’t mindset your way out of your own reactivity and dysregulation
* You can’t copy a script and expect it to work when you haven't embodied it
* You can’t shame yourself into becoming calmer
Most advice gets to the root cause: your nervous system capacity.
When we build capacity so you can trust yourself, discipline in a way that feels right and have less parenting conflict.
👉 If you want to handle anger, anxiety, and pushback with more regulation and capacity (and less guilt after), my 1:1 spaces are open.
DM me to claim yours.
With love,
Amanda
There’s one thing that will decide whether you actually get through the day feeling lighter, calmer, and more at ease, and it’s not constantly ruminating over, and tending to, the domestic load.
When you’re on the edge of chronic stress “doing more” is exactly why you end the day feeling drained and disconnected from yourself.
The moments that actually change how the day unfolds and finishes are the ones you take to pause, notice, and check in with yourself.
Let me give you an example
This morning, walking along the seaside to my clinic, streets quiet, sun dancing on the water, body moving at pace, my thoughts were spinning with shopping lists, the weekend birthday plans, the laundry, the afternoon calls, and I could feel my shoulders getting tense and my stress rising.
So, I paused, exhaled, and took in my surroundings. And I felt so much lighter – even grateful for my life.
Next time you notice you’re pushing through to get it done, pause, check-in.
If you don’t quite know how to, get my guide, to help you create your capacity to actually enjoy the constant load of motherhood .
Comment PEACE and I'll send you my low cost Sanity Saving Guide to your DMs - we'll figure it out together!
With love,
Amanda
When you’re on the edge of chronic stress “doing more” is exactly why you end the day feeling drained and disconnected from yourself.
The moments that actually change how the day unfolds and finishes are the ones you take to pause, notice, and check in with yourself.
Let me give you an example
This morning, walking along the seaside to my clinic, streets quiet, sun dancing on the water, body moving at pace, my thoughts were spinning with shopping lists, the weekend birthday plans, the laundry, the afternoon calls, and I could feel my shoulders getting tense and my stress rising.
So, I paused, exhaled, and took in my surroundings. And I felt so much lighter – even grateful for my life.
Next time you notice you’re pushing through to get it done, pause, check-in.
If you don’t quite know how to, get my guide, to help you create your capacity to actually enjoy the constant load of motherhood .
Comment PEACE and I'll send you my low cost Sanity Saving Guide to your DMs - we'll figure it out together!
With love,
Amanda
In my parenting years, I’ve moved through the toughest parenting moments (two under two, divorce, two homes, new partners, mom being gay, moving out of London, changing schools) without punishing, threatening, or giving consequences for compliance.
It didn’t happen by accident.
It happened because I followed the evidence around how to change behavior in kids, so they actually learn, and I've built my programs around this evidence.
I learned to pause, get curious about what was really going on, and connect with my kids in a way that calms both of our nervous systems.
It also happened because I walk my talk.
I’ve spent years building the capacity to co-regulate, and I’m deeply committed to helping other parents do the same.
In my 1 to 1 work with parents, I show you exactly how you can shift from reactivity to connection—even in the heat of the moment—without needing perfect patience or endless willpower.
You’ll discover: 👉🏽How to pause when your body is screaming to react. 👉🏽 The difference between “managing behavior” and creating true cooperation. 👉🏽 How to use connection and co-regulation to bring calm into everyday challenges. 👉🏽 Why punishing, bribing, or threatening never works long term—and what does instead.
DM me and we’ll find a way to get you started!
With love,
Amanda
It didn’t happen by accident.
It happened because I followed the evidence around how to change behavior in kids, so they actually learn, and I've built my programs around this evidence.
I learned to pause, get curious about what was really going on, and connect with my kids in a way that calms both of our nervous systems.
It also happened because I walk my talk.
I’ve spent years building the capacity to co-regulate, and I’m deeply committed to helping other parents do the same.
In my 1 to 1 work with parents, I show you exactly how you can shift from reactivity to connection—even in the heat of the moment—without needing perfect patience or endless willpower.
You’ll discover: 👉🏽How to pause when your body is screaming to react. 👉🏽 The difference between “managing behavior” and creating true cooperation. 👉🏽 How to use connection and co-regulation to bring calm into everyday challenges. 👉🏽 Why punishing, bribing, or threatening never works long term—and what does instead.
DM me and we’ll find a way to get you started!
With love,
Amanda
I know, you’ve been told to read every book, follow every podcast, and ask all your friends because we see knowledge as superior
But the reason the meltdowns aren’t stopping isn’t the lack of knowledge (or your child just being difficult).
It’s that you haven’t built the capacity to actually use the knowledge when it matters most.
The real shift comes from knowing how to work with your triggers, your frustration tolerance and learning how to respond, not just know what to do in theory.
Meltdowns are highly stressful for your kids too, I promise. So, don’t peg them as bad, disrespectful or a lil a-hole because it’s not true.
They want calm and connection just like you, probably more.
AND, they need you to be the one to keep steady, maintain regulation and be their safety, so they can find their way back to reality amongst the red mist they’re lost in.
When you’re able to hold more stress, and stay regulated and grounded, it becomes SO clear to you that there’s no such thing as bad behavior, it’s just behavior.
And all behavior is communication.
And then, you can deescalate the meltdown in a more calm and steady way, with no guilt or exhaustion to follow.
Work with me to build your capacity to meet every meltdown without feeling drained and guilty afterwards.
Comment or DM READY to book a free call.
Other resources 🔗 in BIO
PS I had full permission from my teen to share this 🥰
With love,
Amanda
But the reason the meltdowns aren’t stopping isn’t the lack of knowledge (or your child just being difficult).
It’s that you haven’t built the capacity to actually use the knowledge when it matters most.
The real shift comes from knowing how to work with your triggers, your frustration tolerance and learning how to respond, not just know what to do in theory.
Meltdowns are highly stressful for your kids too, I promise. So, don’t peg them as bad, disrespectful or a lil a-hole because it’s not true.
They want calm and connection just like you, probably more.
AND, they need you to be the one to keep steady, maintain regulation and be their safety, so they can find their way back to reality amongst the red mist they’re lost in.
When you’re able to hold more stress, and stay regulated and grounded, it becomes SO clear to you that there’s no such thing as bad behavior, it’s just behavior.
And all behavior is communication.
And then, you can deescalate the meltdown in a more calm and steady way, with no guilt or exhaustion to follow.
Work with me to build your capacity to meet every meltdown without feeling drained and guilty afterwards.
Comment or DM READY to book a free call.
Other resources 🔗 in BIO
PS I had full permission from my teen to share this 🥰
With love,
Amanda
Yes to exercise because you’ll feel good for doing it, but it won’t give you the information you need to stop reacting and snapping at your kids, which is really what you want.
Try adding one of the tips from my Sanity Saving Guide into your day - maybe even habit stack it to your run, and see how that changes your capacity to hold stress, and how you're able to show up differently for your kids, in a moment of squeeze.
If we want to build capacity to hold the big emotions from our kids, without tipping into reactivity after being pushed and tested, there are ways to do that.
I outline five of them in my Sanity Saving Guide, to help you create more capacity for stress, so you can actually enjoy the mental load of motherhood, even when you’re being pushed to the edge.
Comment ME for the guide sent straight to your DM.
With love,
Amanda
Try adding one of the tips from my Sanity Saving Guide into your day - maybe even habit stack it to your run, and see how that changes your capacity to hold stress, and how you're able to show up differently for your kids, in a moment of squeeze.
If we want to build capacity to hold the big emotions from our kids, without tipping into reactivity after being pushed and tested, there are ways to do that.
I outline five of them in my Sanity Saving Guide, to help you create more capacity for stress, so you can actually enjoy the mental load of motherhood, even when you’re being pushed to the edge.
Comment ME for the guide sent straight to your DM.
With love,
Amanda
Nothing worse than disciplining a child in public because everyone judges everything.
If we let them cry, we get judged
If we gentle parent we get judged
If we smack them up the head, we get judged
Everyone thinks their way is right.
But that voice inside of you, nudging you to understand your child’s behavior because you know it means something, that is what’s right.
When that voice takes up your entire body and not just your head, no one will question your parenting.
Not even your kids (they will push back, but they will trust you and that’s what matters)
Comment ME for a low cost guide to help embody your truth.
With love,
Amanda
If we let them cry, we get judged
If we gentle parent we get judged
If we smack them up the head, we get judged
Everyone thinks their way is right.
But that voice inside of you, nudging you to understand your child’s behavior because you know it means something, that is what’s right.
When that voice takes up your entire body and not just your head, no one will question your parenting.
Not even your kids (they will push back, but they will trust you and that’s what matters)
Comment ME for a low cost guide to help embody your truth.
With love,
Amanda
Doing it all as a mother isn’t strength, it’s self-sabotage.
It steals your joy.
It's steals your identity.
It steals your capacity to hold the most important role as a mother - the emotional world of your children.
Stop confusing self-sacrifice with strength.
Comment ‘ME’ for The Sanity Saving Guide and start reclaiming your energy 🌟
I made this a low cost so no mom is left out—we’re rewriting the narrative together 👐🏽
With love,
Amanda
It steals your joy.
It's steals your identity.
It steals your capacity to hold the most important role as a mother - the emotional world of your children.
Stop confusing self-sacrifice with strength.
Comment ‘ME’ for The Sanity Saving Guide and start reclaiming your energy 🌟
I made this a low cost so no mom is left out—we’re rewriting the narrative together 👐🏽
With love,
Amanda
Before blaming your teen for their attitude… ask yourself how much you’re adding to it.
I know it’s unpopular to think teens should have an opinion that goes against ours because they should respect their elders, but it just doesn’t work that way…
Teens push boundaries—and often, so do we, even without realizing it.
Our stress, expectations, and reactions ripple through the household, shaping how they respond.
This isn’t about shame—it’s about awareness.
Noticing where you get triggered gives you a chance to step back, stay grounded, and model the regulation you want them to learn.
Because when we take responsibility for our own reactions, the relationship changes.
Less conflict, more connection, and a teen who actually feels heard.
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I know it’s unpopular to think teens should have an opinion that goes against ours because they should respect their elders, but it just doesn’t work that way…
Teens push boundaries—and often, so do we, even without realizing it.
Our stress, expectations, and reactions ripple through the household, shaping how they respond.
This isn’t about shame—it’s about awareness.
Noticing where you get triggered gives you a chance to step back, stay grounded, and model the regulation you want them to learn.
Because when we take responsibility for our own reactions, the relationship changes.
Less conflict, more connection, and a teen who actually feels heard.
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Yes it looks cringe AND it feels so good to not give a f**k because what matters most is the relationship you're creating with yourself so you can be the best very of YOU for your kiddos ❤️❤️
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If you only try to stop the anger, you’ll miss what’s really going on.
In those moments, remember:
* Anger = overwhelm, not defiance.
* Their body is in fight mode, not rational mode.
* The work is calming the stress, not punishing the emotion.
My eldest has a strong fight response, and it’s hard to hold when she’s triggered.
In doing the parenting work, to understand her unique needs and her nervous system wiring, what I’ve learned is her fight response developed when she was young because she was fighting for my connection. She was 16 months old and her sister was born. She couldn’t speak to ask to get her needs met. There was a lot going on in our family at that time that created a highly stressful environment for the parents, and our children. Her survival instinct became to fight.
We’ve done tons of work around awareness, and how to express anger, but mostly what the fight response needs is regular, consistent connection, so the child remembers they are safe in our tribe.
What helps:
* Breathe, pace, tap - find a way to remain regulated and in your power by holding presence and kind boundaries
* See the anger as information.
* Look for what’s underneath — hunger, tiredness, too much noise, a hurt feeling, a need for connection.
* Prioritize consistent connection with your angry child - this happens in day to day as well as when the anger flares up.
Meet the stress, and the anger will start to ease.
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In those moments, remember:
* Anger = overwhelm, not defiance.
* Their body is in fight mode, not rational mode.
* The work is calming the stress, not punishing the emotion.
My eldest has a strong fight response, and it’s hard to hold when she’s triggered.
In doing the parenting work, to understand her unique needs and her nervous system wiring, what I’ve learned is her fight response developed when she was young because she was fighting for my connection. She was 16 months old and her sister was born. She couldn’t speak to ask to get her needs met. There was a lot going on in our family at that time that created a highly stressful environment for the parents, and our children. Her survival instinct became to fight.
We’ve done tons of work around awareness, and how to express anger, but mostly what the fight response needs is regular, consistent connection, so the child remembers they are safe in our tribe.
What helps:
* Breathe, pace, tap - find a way to remain regulated and in your power by holding presence and kind boundaries
* See the anger as information.
* Look for what’s underneath — hunger, tiredness, too much noise, a hurt feeling, a need for connection.
* Prioritize consistent connection with your angry child - this happens in day to day as well as when the anger flares up.
Meet the stress, and the anger will start to ease.
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Amanda
A space where you create deeper relational connection to yourself, so you can be the mother you want to be. If we're not in relationship with ourselves, our emotions, our body, then we can process what's here and we continue to repeat behavior patters that we don't want.
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Discover your emotional triggers
Develop self regulation skills
Understand yours and your child's behaviors Gain confidence as a nother and leader of your family.
"What a beautiful way to start my day with Serenity Sessions. I had a really difficult mental health day with my son this morning but instead of feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to get him into school, we processed together. My nervous system was able to deal with this without feeling drained. Thank you, excited for next week."
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Amanda
Here’s how to help your teen keep track of doing what you’ve asked, so you don’t have to nag.
Use guidance rather than instruction because teens don’t want to be told what to do. And, we need to give them space to find their way.
Give your request: “I need your clothes for washing in the next 15 minutes, when can you bring them down?” They answer in five. You then direct them to look at the time: “Ok, what time is it” They answer, “4:30”
You finish with: “great! Do you need to set a timer to remember or do you have this?” Then wait and see how it plays out. It won’t be perfect the first few times but you’re building a system.
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Use guidance rather than instruction because teens don’t want to be told what to do. And, we need to give them space to find their way.
Give your request: “I need your clothes for washing in the next 15 minutes, when can you bring them down?” They answer in five. You then direct them to look at the time: “Ok, what time is it” They answer, “4:30”
You finish with: “great! Do you need to set a timer to remember or do you have this?” Then wait and see how it plays out. It won’t be perfect the first few times but you’re building a system.
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Amanda
Keep your cup full 😉👇🏽
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Core memories made but the parenting is still intense 🤭🥰😂
It’s normal to catch yourself mid reaction and pause. I do it all the time! That’s actually where the change and the learning happens.
● Pause: stop engaging in the chaos and rigidity of the situation, take a moment & zoom out so you can see the bigger picture which includes what your child’s need is
● Be present: don’t think about the past and previous behaviors (why are they always...) or the future & time pressure, just be
● Breathe: you’ll be tense & contracted so a few breaths will help you soften & come down from your heightened state
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● Pause: stop engaging in the chaos and rigidity of the situation, take a moment & zoom out so you can see the bigger picture which includes what your child’s need is
● Be present: don’t think about the past and previous behaviors (why are they always...) or the future & time pressure, just be
● Breathe: you’ll be tense & contracted so a few breaths will help you soften & come down from your heightened state
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Amanda
![Your needs matter.
So much of my work is supporting mothers who struggle with feeling like they come last. They hold the entire mental and emotional load and it’s a burden that creates resentment.
And our kids feel this tension.
Here’s how to bring your needs forward:
1. Ask for help
“I’ve been feeling stretched lately. Could you help me by taking over [specific task] for a bit? It would mean a lot.”
This approach:
* Shares how you feel honestly
* Is specific in its request
* Keeps a tone that calm and collaborative
2. Make agreements with your partner:
For example, my co-parent handles the kids’ birthday arrangments and dentist appointments. I’ve handed that over completely because I handle all school and life admin for our kids.
Here are other examples:
“Let’s agree that you handle bedtime on weeknights, and I’ll take mornings.”
“Can we split grocery shopping and meal prep each week?”
“I’ll take care of laundry if you handle cleaning the kitchen after dinner.”
“When one of us is feeling overwhelmed, the other steps in without waiting to be asked.”
This helps to share the load and create clearer expectations.
3. Pause before you agree.
If you tend to say yes to avoid conflict, pause and really consider your state and your needs first before agreeing. You don’t have to please everyone!
“Let me think about that and get back to you.”
“I need a minute before I answer.”
“I can’t think about that right now because my head is full, but tomorrow I can let you know”
That last one, I use a lot with my 11 year old because she’s always got ideas for what she wants and needs and sometimes it’s overwhelming, especially when it’s at the end of the day. I often let her know I hear her, and my head is full for today - I'll think about it tomorrow.
This gives you time to respond from alignment, not overwhelm.
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Your needs matter.
So much of my work is supporting mothers who struggle with feeling like they come last. They hold the entire mental and emotional load and it’s a burden that creates resentment.
And our kids feel this tension.
Here’s how to bring your needs forward:
1. Ask for help “I’ve been feeling stretched lately. Could you help me by taking over [specific task] for a bit? It would mean a lot.”
This approach:
* Shares how you feel honestly
* Is specific in its request
* Keeps a tone that calm and collaborative
2. Make agreements with your partner:
For example, my co-parent handles the kids’ birthday arrangments and dentist appointments. I’ve handed that over completely because I handle all school and life admin for our kids.
Here are other examples:
“Let’s agree that you handle bedtime on weeknights, and I’ll take mornings.”
“Can we split grocery shopping and meal prep each week?”
“I’ll take care of laundry if you handle cleaning the kitchen after dinner.”
“When one of us is feeling overwhelmed, the other steps in without waiting to be asked.”
This helps to share the load and create clearer expectations.
3. Pause before you agree. If you tend to say yes to avoid conflict, pause and really consider your state and your needs first before agreeing. You don’t have to please everyone!
“Let me think about that and get back to you.” “I need a minute before I answer.”
“I can’t think about that right now because my head is full, but tomorrow I can let you know”
That last one, I use a lot with my 11 year old because she’s always got ideas for what she wants and needs and sometimes it’s overwhelming, especially when it’s at the end of the day. I often let her know I hear her, and my head is full for today - I'll think about it tomorrow.
This gives you time to respond from alignment, not overwhelm.
Save for future reference and share ❤️
Free resources🔗 in BIO
With love,
Amanda
So much of my work is supporting mothers who struggle with feeling like they come last. They hold the entire mental and emotional load and it’s a burden that creates resentment.
And our kids feel this tension.
Here’s how to bring your needs forward:
1. Ask for help “I’ve been feeling stretched lately. Could you help me by taking over [specific task] for a bit? It would mean a lot.”
This approach:
* Shares how you feel honestly
* Is specific in its request
* Keeps a tone that calm and collaborative
2. Make agreements with your partner:
For example, my co-parent handles the kids’ birthday arrangments and dentist appointments. I’ve handed that over completely because I handle all school and life admin for our kids.
Here are other examples:
“Let’s agree that you handle bedtime on weeknights, and I’ll take mornings.”
“Can we split grocery shopping and meal prep each week?”
“I’ll take care of laundry if you handle cleaning the kitchen after dinner.”
“When one of us is feeling overwhelmed, the other steps in without waiting to be asked.”
This helps to share the load and create clearer expectations.
3. Pause before you agree. If you tend to say yes to avoid conflict, pause and really consider your state and your needs first before agreeing. You don’t have to please everyone!
“Let me think about that and get back to you.” “I need a minute before I answer.”
“I can’t think about that right now because my head is full, but tomorrow I can let you know”
That last one, I use a lot with my 11 year old because she’s always got ideas for what she wants and needs and sometimes it’s overwhelming, especially when it’s at the end of the day. I often let her know I hear her, and my head is full for today - I'll think about it tomorrow.
This gives you time to respond from alignment, not overwhelm.
Save for future reference and share ❤️
Free resources🔗 in BIO
With love,
Amanda
Striving and achieving is a stress response. Soften, surrender, let it go and see how that creates more space and less tension.
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It's normal to catch yourself mid yell and pause. That's actually where the change and the learning happens.
What to do instead of yelling?
Take a moment of silence: 10, 20, 60 seconds.
Clarity will drop in to the emotionally mature part of your brain and body and the resolution will appear like magic.
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What to do instead of yelling?
Take a moment of silence: 10, 20, 60 seconds.
Clarity will drop in to the emotionally mature part of your brain and body and the resolution will appear like magic.
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You’re reacting more than responding.
Confused and embarrassed about your child’s behavior. Snapping when you don’t want to. Feeling guilty after.
That’s not because you’re doing something wrong. It’s because motherhood is f**king hard in the modern world.
All the ways you learned to cope when you were younger and how you were parented as a child isn’t serving you, and you know it.
You can’t force your way through that with more willpower or parenting hacks.
We need space.
This gives us the time to understand our triggers, our child’s behavior and the support to try something different.
Inside Motherhood Rising Collective, we slow down. We look at what’s really going on underneath the hard moments. And we build the kind of support that helps you feel more steady, confident, and connected for to yourself and your child.
Join the sanctuary:
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32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
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🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
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Confused and embarrassed about your child’s behavior. Snapping when you don’t want to. Feeling guilty after.
That’s not because you’re doing something wrong. It’s because motherhood is f**king hard in the modern world.
All the ways you learned to cope when you were younger and how you were parented as a child isn’t serving you, and you know it.
You can’t force your way through that with more willpower or parenting hacks.
We need space.
This gives us the time to understand our triggers, our child’s behavior and the support to try something different.
Inside Motherhood Rising Collective, we slow down. We look at what’s really going on underneath the hard moments. And we build the kind of support that helps you feel more steady, confident, and connected for to yourself and your child.
Join the sanctuary:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
🔻Expert led Masterclasses, third Friday 12:30om 1x pm
🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
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Amanda
We know what feels good as parents when it comes to disciplining our children, we just get lost in our emotional triggers and the old narrative around discipline being associated with threats, consequences and punishments.
We're always need to feel and even have a micro reaction, and then we find our center and be the leader.
The two things to take away from this:
1- our emotional state matters most in discipline
2- discipline doesn't mean to threaten or punish, it means to teach. And kids don't learn when they are being threatened because you're scaring them more than leading them.
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Amanda
We're always need to feel and even have a micro reaction, and then we find our center and be the leader.
The two things to take away from this:
1- our emotional state matters most in discipline
2- discipline doesn't mean to threaten or punish, it means to teach. And kids don't learn when they are being threatened because you're scaring them more than leading them.
Free resources 🔗 in BIO
With love,
Amanda
When we became a mother, we ar nothing like the parent we thought we would be.
I know I wasn’t...
I’ve had to learn so much about myself:
What my emotional triggers are
What activates me and why
How to care for myself when I’m giving so much away
Why I felt guilty for caring about myself
How I can hold boundaries as a people pleaser
How to embody a No
How to be compassionate to the needs of a child
How to see each one in their own uniqueness
None of that was in a book.
It was all inside my body, waiting for me to connect to it
So I can find the answers I needed
To be the mother my children need
Like and save for reference ❤️
AND, Discover this for YOURSELF 👇🏽
Join the membership:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
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🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
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I know I wasn’t...
I’ve had to learn so much about myself:
What my emotional triggers are
What activates me and why
How to care for myself when I’m giving so much away
Why I felt guilty for caring about myself
How I can hold boundaries as a people pleaser
How to embody a No
How to be compassionate to the needs of a child
How to see each one in their own uniqueness
None of that was in a book.
It was all inside my body, waiting for me to connect to it
So I can find the answers I needed
To be the mother my children need
Like and save for reference ❤️
AND, Discover this for YOURSELF 👇🏽
Join the membership:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
🔻Expert led Masterclasses, third Friday 12:30om 1x pm
🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
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Amanda
It’s all in how we choose to respond, with the understanding that behavior isn’t “bad” it’s communication from an emotionally immature system.
Is it ok for kids to speak rudely to their parents, be mean or swear? No.
Can we choose to interrupt that behavior and model with positivity rather than threats or shame. Yes.
Kids learn, not by being shamed but by witnessing a model repeatedly showing us the way, through positive discipline interactions.
Let’s collectively drop the heirarchical stance around “don’t you speak to me that way” or “who do you think you’re talking to” because it doesn’t land.
Respect isn’t demanded.
It’s earned.
The world that kids are conceived in is SO different to the one we grew up in.
These days, kids live their lives being disrespected by parents, teachers, coaches and any random adult they might encounter, when they’re being a bit emotional.
That’s not okay anymore.
And kids are here to let us know, if I’m going to respect you, you need to respect me.
The age of childism is long gone.
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Is it ok for kids to speak rudely to their parents, be mean or swear? No.
Can we choose to interrupt that behavior and model with positivity rather than threats or shame. Yes.
Kids learn, not by being shamed but by witnessing a model repeatedly showing us the way, through positive discipline interactions.
Let’s collectively drop the heirarchical stance around “don’t you speak to me that way” or “who do you think you’re talking to” because it doesn’t land.
Respect isn’t demanded.
It’s earned.
The world that kids are conceived in is SO different to the one we grew up in.
These days, kids live their lives being disrespected by parents, teachers, coaches and any random adult they might encounter, when they’re being a bit emotional.
That’s not okay anymore.
And kids are here to let us know, if I’m going to respect you, you need to respect me.
The age of childism is long gone.
If your struggling with communication in your relationship with your kids, books a free call and let’s chat about how you can fix that.
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Amanda
And then our kids’ moods then reflect our calm instead of reflecting our stress.
When I feel less tension and stress because I’ve recharged, I can meet my kids’ needs with more connection and less reactivity.
Join the collective:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
🔻Expert led Masterclasses, third Friday 12:30om 1x pm
🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
Save to remember this and share with a mom who's feeling stressed ❤️
With love,
Amanda
When I feel less tension and stress because I’ve recharged, I can meet my kids’ needs with more connection and less reactivity.
Join the collective:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
🔻Expert led Masterclasses, third Friday 12:30om 1x pm
🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
Save to remember this and share with a mom who's feeling stressed ❤️
With love,
Amanda
Behavior changes when you connect with your kids 👇🏽
● Pause: stop, take a moment & zoom out so you can see the bigger picture which includes what your child's need is
● Breathe: you’ll be tense & contracted so a few breaths will help you soften & come down from your heightened state
● Be present: don’t think about the past and previous behaviors (why are they always...) or the future & time pressure, just be
● Get curious: ask questions about your reactions, the situation, your child’s needs, how you can collaborate or hold the boundary with kindesss, validate and understand
● Be silent: this is when the best co-regulation happens, we can be too corrective & critical of our children. Silence gives us all a moment to reset
● Offer choice: choice is the center of human needs, everyone should have this right
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Save for reference 👐🏽
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● Pause: stop, take a moment & zoom out so you can see the bigger picture which includes what your child's need is
● Breathe: you’ll be tense & contracted so a few breaths will help you soften & come down from your heightened state
● Be present: don’t think about the past and previous behaviors (why are they always...) or the future & time pressure, just be
● Get curious: ask questions about your reactions, the situation, your child’s needs, how you can collaborate or hold the boundary with kindesss, validate and understand
● Be silent: this is when the best co-regulation happens, we can be too corrective & critical of our children. Silence gives us all a moment to reset
● Offer choice: choice is the center of human needs, everyone should have this right
Book a free call 🔗 in BIO
FREE resources🔗 in BIO
Save for reference 👐🏽
With love,
Amanda
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Behavior in children is rarely intentional and almost always a stress response.
That is communication.
That is an unmet need.
That is something you're capable of holding.
That is something you can change by regulating first.
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That is communication.
That is an unmet need.
That is something you're capable of holding.
That is something you can change by regulating first.
Book a free call for family support ✔️
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With love,
Amanda
To help you build a more connected relationship with your child, while managing their behavior, I created a framework — the four Cs, based on the 8 years I’ve spent working with parents and children.
1. Curiosity
Getting curious is more than asking questions. It’s pausing, paying attention, attuning, listening and sensing into a moment. This leads you to ask the right questions or access the language you need to validate your child’s feelings
and empathize with them.
2. Co-regulation
When you’ve developed the beautiful skill of self-regulation, you’re able to be in hard situtations with your children, and stay grounded, centered, open, and safe. That energy that you hold in your nervous system is then shared with your child, supporting them to come down from their heightened state. You’re also modeling to them what they are capable of.
3. Connection
Will help your child move further out of their ‘fight or flight’ fear state and into a safe place. Connection is an emotional need like our physical need for food. We connect through gentle touch, eye contact, smiles, hugs, being at peace with the moment. When you’re connected, you’re engaged and fully present with your child.
4. Compassion
You sense their struggle and take action to ease suffering, pain, unease. It’s not just validating and empathizing, it’s moving towards repair and resolution. It’s hard to feel strong emotions. It’s scary and confusing. It’s hard when you dont get your need met. You know this. Compassion helps children and young people know they’re not wrong or bad, and that you got their back.
Save for next time you’re feeling frustrated, angry, and challenged as a parent, take a pause, get curious and apply the 4 Cs.
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Amanda
1. Curiosity
Getting curious is more than asking questions. It’s pausing, paying attention, attuning, listening and sensing into a moment. This leads you to ask the right questions or access the language you need to validate your child’s feelings
and empathize with them.
2. Co-regulation
When you’ve developed the beautiful skill of self-regulation, you’re able to be in hard situtations with your children, and stay grounded, centered, open, and safe. That energy that you hold in your nervous system is then shared with your child, supporting them to come down from their heightened state. You’re also modeling to them what they are capable of.
3. Connection
Will help your child move further out of their ‘fight or flight’ fear state and into a safe place. Connection is an emotional need like our physical need for food. We connect through gentle touch, eye contact, smiles, hugs, being at peace with the moment. When you’re connected, you’re engaged and fully present with your child.
4. Compassion
You sense their struggle and take action to ease suffering, pain, unease. It’s not just validating and empathizing, it’s moving towards repair and resolution. It’s hard to feel strong emotions. It’s scary and confusing. It’s hard when you dont get your need met. You know this. Compassion helps children and young people know they’re not wrong or bad, and that you got their back.
Save for next time you’re feeling frustrated, angry, and challenged as a parent, take a pause, get curious and apply the 4 Cs.
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With love,
Amanda
This is not about your child disrespecting you.
So, if it's not the kids behavior, what’s really making you yell 👇🏽
1. Stress, Overwhelm & Exhaustion
Parents are chronically stressed, mostly from parenting and continuous battles with our kids, but also from news, politics, extended family, work, finances, lack of sleep, or spinning 7000 plates.
When we’re depleted, even minor behaviors (like spilled milk or repeating simple instructions) can push us over the edge, prompting a yelling response
2. Lack of Self‑Regulation
Under stress, we default to defense mode which is our fight‑or‑flight reaction. We yell back not because it’s effective, but because our nervous system has dropped into survival and we haven’t been taught how to pause and choose a more regulated response
3. Unresolved Emotional Triggers & Patterns
Many parents realize their impulse to yell stems from unresolved childhood wounds. So when your child is holding their boundary, it triggers you and you use authoritarian discipline which makes things worse.
But your “trigger" ie feeling unheard or disrespected, is the stimulus that causes a reaction. Not because your child is bad but because you were never allowed as a child to express your feelings. Breaking this cycle requires both awareness and healing work.
If you're ready to explore a new way book a FREE call or check 🔗 in BIO for FREE resources 😘
With love,
Amanda
So, if it's not the kids behavior, what’s really making you yell 👇🏽
1. Stress, Overwhelm & Exhaustion
Parents are chronically stressed, mostly from parenting and continuous battles with our kids, but also from news, politics, extended family, work, finances, lack of sleep, or spinning 7000 plates.
When we’re depleted, even minor behaviors (like spilled milk or repeating simple instructions) can push us over the edge, prompting a yelling response
2. Lack of Self‑Regulation
Under stress, we default to defense mode which is our fight‑or‑flight reaction. We yell back not because it’s effective, but because our nervous system has dropped into survival and we haven’t been taught how to pause and choose a more regulated response
3. Unresolved Emotional Triggers & Patterns
Many parents realize their impulse to yell stems from unresolved childhood wounds. So when your child is holding their boundary, it triggers you and you use authoritarian discipline which makes things worse.
But your “trigger" ie feeling unheard or disrespected, is the stimulus that causes a reaction. Not because your child is bad but because you were never allowed as a child to express your feelings. Breaking this cycle requires both awareness and healing work.
If you're ready to explore a new way book a FREE call or check 🔗 in BIO for FREE resources 😘
With love,
Amanda
When we're triggered, our heart space can shut down very quickly, but when it comes to relationships, especially with our kids, it's the energy of the heart that we need most.
The heart space also includes shoulders and arms.
For the next week try this 👇🏽
Shoulder rotations
* As mothers, not only are we often physically carrying stuff for our children, especially when younger, but we’re also carrying the invisible domestic load which can create that hunched, contracted thoracic tension. Do shoulder rotations for 90 seconds and free up tension in the traps, chest, and upper back, and sense into the space you’re creating
Spinal flexions and extensions
* Opening and easing tension in the heart space, makes it easier to connect—to yourself and to your children because you're softening the armor through rhythmic movement and breathing. Try this for 3 minutes, each morning.
Save for later 👇🏽
Join the collective:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
🔻Expert led Masterclasses, third Friday 12:30om 1x pm
🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
Comment RISE for details straight to your DM
With love,
Amanda
The heart space also includes shoulders and arms.
For the next week try this 👇🏽
Shoulder rotations
* As mothers, not only are we often physically carrying stuff for our children, especially when younger, but we’re also carrying the invisible domestic load which can create that hunched, contracted thoracic tension. Do shoulder rotations for 90 seconds and free up tension in the traps, chest, and upper back, and sense into the space you’re creating
Spinal flexions and extensions
* Opening and easing tension in the heart space, makes it easier to connect—to yourself and to your children because you're softening the armor through rhythmic movement and breathing. Try this for 3 minutes, each morning.
Save for later 👇🏽
Join the collective:
🌀 Motherhood Rising Collective🌀
32.00 per month for all the drop in and recorded classes you need.
🔻Serenity Sessions, Monday morning 1x pw
🔻Expert led Masterclasses, third Friday 12:30om 1x pm
🔻Group reflections and Q&A, third Sunday 9:30am 1x pm
Comment RISE for details straight to your DM
With love,
Amanda
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